December 14


How To Love Yourself When You Don’t Know How

If you struggle with loving yourself, don’t know how to start, or need help getting back on track, this article is for you. We will cover ten ways to help you better love yourself and be your own best friend.

Start by giving yourself permission to be imperfect.

Self-love is NOT about being perfect. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. You don’t need to do everything right the first time, every time. Life is an ever-changing journey; there are no mistakes in life, only lessons learned and opportunities for growth. If you mess up or make a mistake, that doesn’t mean you’re not good enough; it simply means that this moment didn’t go as planned, but tomorrow brings with it new possibilities! So learn from your errors and keep moving forward because nothing will stop you if you believe in yourself!

Don’t compare yourself to others.

When it comes to loving ourselves, comparing ourselves to other people is something that can really get in the way of our self-confidence and self-worth. Everyone has their own unique set of strengths and weaknesses; we all have different gifts and talents we bring into this world, making us who we truly are! Don’t EVER try and measure up against someone else because what works for them doesn’t mean it will work exactly like that for you.

Talk to yourself in a positive way.

When you really want to love yourself but don’t know how, start by telling yourself you are doing a good job and that you are worth it. Use positive self-talk to help boost your inner confidence and cultivate self-love. When we say kind, encouraging things to ourselves on a regular basis, it helps our mind believe them, which makes us feel better about ourselves!

Write down three things about yourself that you like.

It can be helpful to write down three things you appreciate about yourself every day. This could be anything from our personality traits, physical features, accomplishments, etc. The more specific you are, the better! Writing these down helps you focus on the good and reminds us that we ARE worth loving just as we are!

Eliminate things that trigger you.

If certain things tend to trigger negative thoughts or emotions within you, try and eliminate them from your life as much as possible. This could be anything from people who bring you down to foods that make you feel guilty after eating them. Removing these triggers will help free up some space in your mind and heart for positivity and self-love!

Get support.

If you are struggling to love yourself, it’s not something that will happen overnight. And while working on loving ourselves can be a very personal process, sometimes we just need some help along the way! A great way to get started on this journey of self-love and healing is by getting support from someone who will listen when you need to talk, without judging or telling you what to do.

Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself.

Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself. This could be friends, family members, or even a support group of people who are all working on cultivating self-love. When you surround yourself with positive influences, it helps you see the good in yourself and raises your vibration!

Take care of your body.

Self-care is so important when it comes to loving yourself! If you don’t take care of your physical body, how can you expect it to be in a good state emotionally and mentally? When you make time for yourself each day to do things that make you feel good – like getting enough sleep, eating healthy foods, and exercising – it gives you a sense of peace and balance. It also strengthens your ability to be compassionate towards yourself when life gets tough!

Spend time doing things that make you happy.

When you are happy, it shows in your demeanor and how you interact with others. So take some time each day to do something that brings you joy, and watch as your inner light begins to shine a little bit brighter! ?

Focus on a growth mindset to learn how to love yourself.

Find something to do for fun that challenges you but doesn’t overwhelm you – this will help build confidence in new skills or abilities. This could be anything from taking a class to meeting up with friends each week. When you take time out of your busy schedule and focus on something that truly interests you and makes you feel alive inside, it’s impossible not to love yourself!

Learn to accept compliments.

When someone pays us a compliment, our natural reaction is to downplay it or reject it. But what if we started accepting compliments with grace and gratitude? This small change in attitude can help shift your mindset from one of self-doubt to one of self-love!

Laugh every day!

When we laugh, it opens up the heart chakra and allows love to flow freely into our lives! Watch a few fun or silly videos on YouTube that you know will make you smile. ?


You CAN learn to love yourself, even when you don’t know how. Self-love is a journey that we all have to go through in our own way and at our own pace. These are just some tips to get you started, but don’t be afraid to explore and find what works best for you! The most important thing is that you make an effort – even if it’s small. We are sending you lots of love! ❤️

Jess & Kara

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